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GET OVER “IT”!
You have been looking for ‘IT’ in all the wrong places!
If I ask you to go to the corner store and get ‘IT’ for me, you will not know what you are suppose to get? Likewise when you are told to simply drop ‘IT’, how do you know what it is that you are to drop? Are you waiting for things to blow over? What is ‘IT’ you are wanting to blow over? Are you ducking from your emotions once again? There are reasons why this situation has come up!
For years masters from the east have told you to simply drop ‘IT’! They speak of the ease of release. Many eastern masters have not been caught by the web of earthly realities. In saying this I mean they have not been caught by ‘IT’. When these eastern spiritual masters & teachers have not experienced the ‘IT’ you have, they have a very difficult time in giving you the relief that you seek.
Psychotherapy has had the same approach for many years to this ‘IT’. The evolution of the soul has had its effect in the new approaches to Psychotherapy. Soul evolution has its effect on all aspects of your daily life. Traditional therapy allows you to go back to your childhood and see the events from the mind’s point of view. The work that has been done on self has only resulted in cleaning out the first floor. The authentic changes that are needed to finally release your ego chains are in the basement. The foundation that you have built your life on is where the change takes place.
The ‘IT’ are your mistaken beliefs of self, not the situation or anything or anyone outside of self that need be released and simply dropped. This is not as simple as it may sounds. The process work in this chapter allows you go back to your past and discover the ‘IT’ that you need to let go of.
You can see how your childhood has affected your identity as a person. For clarity with how to fix the foundation I will give you an example. One person came to me to discover their chains to the past. It is all guided back to the past by feelings. He had to really connect to his emotions he was feeling. There was no playing around with these emotions. I got him to really truly feel it deeply. He was so upset with his present partner. Once he was truly feeling the emotions under the surface layer, he dropped into his path. He turned around and followed the links of the chain. With each link he realized the same feeling was present with all his previous partners. As he kept lifting the chains, another link appeared just above the “see level”. He finally pulled on the anchor.
This was difficult to do as it has been stuck in the muck of the bottom for a very long time. The heart strings were used to finally pull up the anchor. A emotional memory came flooding back to his awareness. He knew the exact place where he felt it started. He could see the situation with his mother when he was a kid. He discovered his “IT”! He could see how he has been the common denominator in every relationship he has been in. He saw how all these partners played a specific role in his life. He let out all the emotions and verbally used me as his mother to let out what he believed of himself from that childhood event. Only once you pulled up the anchor to the past can you move forward. Only by discovering your “IT” can you truly be free to move forward. It comes down to 4 pillars of the ego. These pillars of the ego are 1) unworthy, 2) undeserving, 3) unlovable and 4) not good enough. If you have not got to these emotions you are NOT at your anchor and freedom is going to take a bit more pulling on the anchor to get to these core issues.
Various paths of spirituality are focused on attempts at forgetting the past and simply moving on to the present moment. Living in the present moment can never be achieved without disconnecting your past. If you are attempting to improve on your ‘self’ then you are being guided down an Ego Avenue. Ego based spirituality is all about the IT. Many continue to look at their path as the one and only path. There are many amazing books and courses that can assist you in understanding that you and your ego are separate. The power of attraction is opening your connection to source. You will attract what you need before you attract what you want. To achieve your desires and goals you must have your blocks to these removed first. That is why it is important to remember that your true nature is always connected. You are still connected at all points in your life to source, god or the universe. You may forget that in all things there is no duality to approach truth. Your path holds truth with each step you take. The truth in that step may not be applicable higher or lower on your path. It does not mean that you are better or worse than anyone else on their path.
I’ll give you a fitting example. Ask your 5/6 year old what you get when you have 5 things and you take away 4, they may say you get one. (5-4=1) Now as them what you get if you have 5 and take away 7. (5-7=?) The will say how silly you are. Ask a 17 year old what you get when you have 5 and take away 7 and the response will be -2. (5-7=-2) Both answers are correct for where they are in their personal learning curve. Where you are on your path a higher truth may not be appropriate if you are still connected to your ego’s mistaken beliefs of self.
You must pay attention not to become attached to your path or teachers. The specialness of your path is ego based. Even ACIM speaks a lot about the ego and specialness yet many who follow ACIM view ‘ACIM’ in specialness light. When you are attached to your path you may experience your own personal rebellion against organized religion. This rebellion phase is only a state of the mind. True peace only comes when all parts of you enter the state of surrender. The beliefs and the rebellion of the ‘self’ are both in need of surrender.
Stepping stones on the path cannot be discounted. Your path you chose has provided you great stepping stones so far. Becoming open and entering a state of surrender doesn’t mean you discount the places you come from. You will go through a time of rebellion, so that is natural along your path. You must remember that rebellion is not real either. Your spiritual teachings that you have learned are part of your Soul purpose and the true intent will only become clear once your finish the removal of the ego blocks.
Your ego seeks specialness. Your ego also seeks a level of specialness of your personal spiritual path. Be careful to avoid your ego attaching your identity to your path so it can hold you above others on their path. When you get to the edge at the top of the mountain, all paths join. If your ego has locked in your specialness and identity to your path, you will remain stuck on the verge of enlightenment. You will become stuck in the hell of personal enlightenment. Your identity has become enmeshed with your path and the ego holds you there.
Your final battle will be when the opportunity to release the path is before you. The moment of transcending the path and the stepping stones that got you to the edge will occur. Enlightenment is a simple swing across the valley on a rope. You will need to leave your beliefs, books, teachers and mind. You will not be alone there! There are many others willing to argue about the ‘correct’ path that got you to the edge. Many simply pass on at the edge of their soul’s path in a state of arguing. To get to this stage on the path you must be willing to feel your feelings 100%. Now is not the time to think about your feelings, it is time to allow your emotions to guide you to the next adventure on your path. Now step into your feelings and start pulling up your links to your past.
More processes and more insights to “Get over “IT” are in the new ebook coming to Kindle and iBooks called exactly that “Get over “IT”, what the hell is “IT”